Self-modelling your preferences
Below are some questions to get you started self-modelling your own way of liking and preferring.
1. How do you know:
° you like/dislike something?
° how much you like/dislike it?
° you prefer it to something else you like less?
(and what do these depend on?)
2. Notice how you distinguish between:
° a preference/like
° a want/desire
° a need
° what’s in your (and others’) best interest
3. What do you do when:
° you can’t get or have your preference?
° you have incompatible, or a conflict of, preferences?
° what you like is not in your (and others’) best interest?
° what you don't like is in your (and others’) best interest?
4. If your clothes, home, job, partner, friends — in fact your whole life — were a reflection of your hierarchy of preferences, what does that reveal about your preferences and you?
Penny Tompkins & James Lawley
Penny and James are supervising neurolinguistic psychotherapists – first registered with the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy in 1993 – coaches in business, certified NLP trainers, and founders of The Developing Company.
They have provided
consultancy to organisations as diverse as GlaxoSmithKline, Yale
University Child Study Center, NASA Goddard Space Center and the
Findhorn Spiritual Community in Northern Scotland.
Their book, Metaphors in Mind was the first comprehensive guide to Symbolic Modelling using the Clean Language of David Grove. An annotated training DVD, A Strange and Strong Sensation demonstrates their work in a live session. James has also written (with Marian Way) the first book dedicated to Clean Space: Insights in Space. Between them Penny and James have published over 200 articles and blogs freely available on their website: cleanlanguage.co.uk.