Appendix – SOURCE MATERIAL
7. Sample transcript of Robert Dilts modelling Martin Snoddon
Start of Video Clip 01 (shown in Section 3)
That works for me within groups. It’s inviting the connection, and it’s
holding the connection, and it’s exploring the connection even further
at that particular point.
So inviting, holding and exploring. That seems to me to be a very
interesting and important sequence. I’ve got to first invite it, then
I’ve got to hold it, and then explore it. So I’d like to get down to
some very very specific detail. My guess is
that you have to prepare yourself in a certain way to connect. In fact, to reach out, or to invite means that you kind of have to be – in some
language you might say, ‘not in your own ego’. It seems to me it’s a
special place to be. You’re not trying to impose your map of the world
on other people. You’re not trying to be right. You’re not trying to go,
'I’ve got to be safe'. It seems to me there's some quality that you
have inside that allows
you to do that. What would you say to that?
M: I would say that’s exactly right in the sense that I mean for me it’s opening my heart at that particular moment. And embracing in some way that other person. It’s about opening the heart for that to happen.
R: So now this is where we really get into the interesting part of NLP because I'm going to ask some of those questions which [you] will probably go ‘I have no idea’. So my first question is going to be about [inaudible]. Ok so that’s the exploration. How do you open your heart? I mean is there a something. It seems like in a certain way everything else is all dependent on your capacity to open your heart. How do you do this? I imagine it’s probably something that’s intuitive for you, but if I was just to ask you that question first, would you have an answer? How do you open your heart?
M: To let go in some ways. To let go of probably everything my society has taught me. To let go of that. That conditioning in terms of what I should be or shouldn’t be. And just to be. Just to be in the flow or to let things flow through me. That energy I believe comes through me from the universe. And it's lovely being a vessel. It’s lovely being in receipt of [inaudible].
R: So you let go of everything society has taught you,
M: Probably not everything!
R: But there are some really fascinating things here. So first of all how do you (I’ll be asking a lot of ‘how’ questions). So how do you let go? I want to backtrack on a few things that were really powerful about what you said. It’s a really a fundamental difference that makes the difference. So to just be yourself, let things flow, let things flow through you. This notion of just being. So how do you do that? What is that like? How do you know how to do that?
M: As you’re talking I’m thinking, What am I doing when I’m actually doing that? It’s almost like I want at that moment to love this person and to engage with this person with the love that I would have within me. And basically to put it out there and say to them come out here and meet me out here. This is where I want to be with you.
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